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Sunday, April 18, 2010

04.18.10

I need to get something clear here. This blog was started in an effort to keep friends and family up to date with what was going on with our adoption process for Lucy. Once I started, I loved everything about blogging, so I kept on blogging. Over the years, for whatever reason, a lot of people started reading about our family and looking at our pictures. Most of the time, I am perfectly fine with that. I still love blogging and the community that I have met through this blog. 99.9% of the time, the nicest people chime in on the comments and relate to a story I wrote about or comment on the pictures. I LOVE to hear from you all. Thank you for caring and checking in our family.

It has been a long, long time since I have gotten a rude or mean "anonymous" comment. However, Friday evening I got a very nasty comment, which I promptly deleted. The basic message of the comment was "to get over myself and stop complaining." They also said, and this is a direct quote, "actually we are lucky you have neglected your blog otherwise there is no telling what you would be complaining about." I was actually told on MY OWN blog to shut up. Seriously? I am sorry, are we clear here on what someone gets to say on a personal blog created for family and friends?

Then, a while after I deleted this comment, I got another anonymous comment thanking the first anonymous and that they completely agreed. And a few more nasty jabs just for good measure.

Now, I am obviously well aware of what exactly I have said on my most recent blog posts. Have they been fun, exciting, energetic, or especially positive? No, which is the exact reason that I took a week off from saying anything because I did not like it either. I love this blog. I love documenting our lives and sharing photos. But I also want it to be real. So what do I write about? Exactly what I am feeling when I sit down at my computer that evening. And if that is not all butterflies and roses, that is what I say.

And for the past few weeks, I have felt overwhelmed with a whole lot of things going on in our lives - so I have used this as a place to vent those feelings - because I like to have a place all of my own to say whatever I want. I have been stressed out about all kinds of things. Work has been a lot to deal with. Lucy is going through the hardest phase of her little life that we have ever been through and it is making Justin and me question all kinds of things about our parenting. And these are just the things that I choose to share on here. We obviously have all kinds of other hard things going on.

If you are bored with me or my blog, or tired of hearing me say that things have been stressful, PLEASE stop reading my PERSONAL blog. Trust me, I totally understand. I love having people that read, but I do NOT want people reading that do not want to be here. And by all means, please stop acting like anyone is making you come here. I just have one question, WHY are you still here? Why are you still reading if I make you that mad? I have NO desire to be some giant blogger with a zillion readers. Again, the purpose is to keep friends and family up to date with our lives and make a few friends along the way.

So, after I got the first comment, I was sitting around wasting energy about how it stung to have someone say such harsh words to me about what I choose to say on my blog. And then the second comment came and I turned off the anonymous commenter option and felt even more sad.

But then I had a couple of huge revelations and I let it all go. The first one was: What kind of a person is sitting around on a Friday night reading the comments and a blog that they supposedly hate and then feeling the need to leave extremely nasty comments? Must be a very miserable couple of people. With loads of time on their hands. I am sorry that you are so angry at me and probably the rest of the world. I have no intention of letting you make me feel badly for even one more second.

But a much more important thing that I thought about was how you made me feel. And I want to thank my hateful anonymous commenters because you reminded me how our words can really, really hurt others. And when I get stressed out and exhausted, I can be really snappy and mean with the people that I love the very most. You showed me how hurtful my snappy comments can be to them. So now I can be more aware and try much harder to not say unnecessarily mean things to people. Because really, what good does it do. It sure doesn't make me feel better and I know it hurts the people it is directed at. Do you feel better after attacking me? I almost hope you do.

And one final thing. Sure, I don't know your name because you are all sneaky and anonymous, but I get a lot of information when you leave a comment on my blog. And I see when you come back to see what happens after you leave your nasty comment. The internet is amazing like that. I assure you, you are not invisible. Not on Friday, and not right now.

So, there it is. I feel better getting all of that off of my chest. I will try and not be as negative on here. But if I need a place to vent, this is my space. You are obviously welcome to come and go as you please, so feel free to go if you don't like it. But to those of you that stay and play nicely, I am glad that you are here. Thanks for all of the support that you have given me. And Lee Lee, you are going to have to figure out how to comment now that the yucky anonymous people ruined that. And you too, Justin.

Total change of topic, but I took Lucy to the American Girl store and cafe the other day for a special one on one date. She LOVED it. She kept saying over and over how fancy everything was and how much she loved it all. We picked out a new outfit for Ivy - raincoat, boots and a hat. It was soooooooo nice to see her so happy. She really is going through some very big emotional stuff. It has been heartbreaking to watch because she hasn't been able to tell us what is going on. I am sure she is going through a big developmental growth, but it has never been like this before. It is like she is totally overwhelmed the majority of the day and it results in her completely melting down in a way we have never seen before. I have just been praying for guidance with how to deal with it all.

These pictures are straight out of the camera. This is the only time all week I picked up my camera for personal pics. But they are so cute.

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Longing for the dessert that the little girl next to us had.
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Her reaction when she got that dessert.
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She ate every single bite.
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128 comments:

Jena said...

Hey Kelly-
I was wondering where you were... please know that there are friends that you have made in bloggy-land that don't comment all the time(ahem, me) but consider you a friend. Some of us have gone through our adoptions together and share that experience... and have a regard and support for one another that keeps us reading each other's blogs and supporting each other(even if it is from a far and not with many comments :)

I love the pics of Lucy and Ivy, Bailey has Ivy too, and we love her! I only wish they would do some more books and clothes for her :)

On another note- parenting is HARD work... there is no way around it... please know that there are some of us out here as sounding boards(although I know you have a strong support network of family) who have walked through all kinds of stuff with our kiddos.

Also know that life is what it is. It is joyous and painful. Exhilarating and exhausting, and living it authentically, in each moment is the ONLY way to live- for good, bad, hard or indifferent.

Love you girl!

Dawn said...

I am sorry you had to deal with the anonymous garbage...but you are exactly right...what kind of person is sitting around reading other's blogs and leaving nasty comments...sad.

LOVE the pics of Lucy at AG...can't wait to take my own Lucy someday!

Sooz said...

So I never leave a comment, but this post definitely deserved me speaking up. I'm so sorry you are having to deal with rude people. I've had the same thing happen on my own blog and it just sucks. I love when people like yourself keep it real. Keep on keepin' it real Kelly!

Jess and Paul said...

all i can say is mean people suck. especially people who leave those anonymous comments. i think most of us who put our hearts out there have been hurt by them one time or another. much love and i am digging the sooc. i want to post more of them myself.

Erin said...

boo for yucky comments! hang in there girl ! you're my favorite, favorite, favorite blog to read!!!

ps...love the pics today - so super sweet!

Beth said...

I'm sorry you had to deal with someone's hurtful comments. Please don't feel like you need to apologize to ANYBODY for anything you've written on YOUR blog. It is exactly as you said... it is your blog to write however you feel, and if some rude people don't like what you write, then they shouldn't read it!! - Please don't change anything you do. The rest of us love to read your blog and of course love the pictures. :)

jilljohnandhope said...

Boo to mean people. I don't know what it is about being "annonymous" that can bring out the worst in people.

Love the picture of her looking at the dessert! I can almost hear her thoughts!

Lindsey said...

Kelly,
I have been following your blog for quite sometime and your girls are precious and I LOVE the pictures! I too have had to deal with the nasty comments ans it's hard to hear. I type on my blog to feel better about things going on in my own personal life. So when I go back and re read it; I can actually see my life isn't so bad. I totally agree with you. NO ONE should post on a blog and be rude especially if they can't even identify themselves! Cowards! Again I'm sorry! Your children are beautiful and you should be a loud to type about anything you want! If they don't like it they need to hit the next button to move onto another blog. You and all other bloggers are not blogging just about happy things; problems arise and everyone has them. But, to deal with them in a way that you take it out on others is wrong! They are miserable and to be honest probably jealous! Please don't let them get to you...that is what they want. It's so much easier to say then do though! I know from experience. Blogging is a way to release and type your feelings and everyone should be able to do that. After all, it is freedom of speech:)

Lisa said...

Continue to keep it real and truthful Kelly. It's more important to portray yourself as a real mother going through real motherhood.

Cam and Bird's Mom said...

Kelly,
Hang in there. Parenting is just hard. I agree with your comment about having nothing better to do on a Friday night than put out negative comments on someone's personal blog. Tacky & Ridiculous. Keep smiling and enjoying your little ladies.

Brian and Kerum said...

It's horrible how people act on the internet! It's like they think that because no one knows it's them, that they can do or say whatever they want and not worry about the repercussions. Sorry they picked you to show their true colors. I really didn't see anything wrong with what you were writing anyway (and even if I did, it's YOUR blog...not mine!). You just happened to be talking about life...and not sugar-coating it like everything is sunshine and roses all the time!

Love the pictures of Lucy at the American Girl cafe. I've never been (and probably won't ever need to with 3 boys!), but heard it's awesome! The dessert looks so fun! I can completely see why she was looking the way she was at the other girls dessert! :-)

Tara said...

Well I read your blog every time you post, and I dont normally leave comments (but I should because you are my favorite!!), but this calls for a comment! Your blog is the best one that I read. I can read about toddlers, photography, adoption, clothing, all in one place! Just from your writing I can tell you and your whole family are just sweet, kind hearted people! You can darn well post whatever you want here! If those nasty people think your blog is so negative and full of complaints, then why are they adding negativity to it??
Anyways...I am just a random lurker, and I have said this before, but your blog is the highlight of my day, and I think you're fabulous!
I am praying for lucy, and hoping this is an age thing. The boy that I nanny for is going through the same thing (just turned 4) and it is TOUGH!
We are here for ya girl!!

Erica said...

It takes a special person to take something nasty and turn it into something positive and life affirming--way to go Kelly!

I've taken some nasty ones on my blog, but again, it is MY blog. My thoughts. We come here because we want something real--we don't want puffery. It assures us all that the things going on in our lives go on in other people's lives and it ultimately connects us all.

It's sad that these people really have so much going on in their lives that they have to leave anonymous ugliness, but really, do people like that ever fess up to their own ugliness? The internet makes it very easy to hide and we feel invisible, but as you said, we aren't.

NeuroMama said...

I'm sorry that someone felt like she had to cut you down to make herself feel better. I actually love it when you post the less than perfect moments because it's so real. I don't like blogs that are all sunshine and puppy dogs all the time. Seriously, who do they think they're kidding? Every mom struggles and makes mistakes and feels like pulling her hair out once in a while! And, if you have no where to vent, you'll wind up having less patience with your adorable babies (and Justin). So, don't let anyone stop you from telling your truth. It's perfectly healthy (says the psychologist).

Terynn said...

Kelly: I have been following your blog since *before* Lucy and feel like I have watched you grow up before my eyes (I am likely closer to Lee Lee's age than yours-ha).

I am constantly appalled at people's poor public behavior. When I read someone's blog, especially a mom's, I feel as though I have been invited over for coffee and cake.

I get to hear newsy, chatty stories about their kids, listen as they process life events, encourage them with happy thoughts and compliments and well, just share life in this new cyber-y way.

And as such, I would never (unless solicited) offer advice, criticism, input, etc., since I have been invited in to the cyber living room for coffee and cake...and behaving that way is rude and ugly to do, while in someone's 'living room'.

I completely agree with dis-allowing anonymous comments. There is no need to allow such naughtiness to be left for you to read and then, feel badly about. I am sorry this affects your mom and Justin, but seriously, they want you to be shielded from such nonsense, too, I'm guessing.

You are a great mom, with a great heart and a great family. It is hard to open up and let the world in, but you do it with an honest and sincere heart.

Bah. Don't let the haters steal your joy. Not even for one minute.

Christi said...

Great pictures! What a well said post! I read your blog all the time, you are an amazing Mother! That is so shocking that someone would leave such a nasty comment! Get em girl!

daonguyen said...

hi kelly, i am still a devoted reader of your blog eventhough i don't always comment. i love following your family adventures whether it be good or bad. as a parent as well i know it definitely can be tough and we all learn from each other by sharing our hardships. hearing about your struggles sometimes makes me feel like i not the only one going through it too. your blog is real and i love that. don't change anything just because some arses out there can't keep mean things to themselves. i admire your photography too! i always look forward to your photos.

KrisJ said...

1st off darling pics!! And Im so sorry Lucy is going through some stuff but I will say that its pretty normal. I think all kids go through phases (Or at least mine do.. so I hope its normal!) where they feel like they need to test the system and us. We usually have to adjust our parenting when the old disipline doesnt work and the new stuff works for a good long time after we figure it all out. Im sure very soon something will click and she will be all sweet and smiles again!!
AND THEN HOLY BAD WORD BATMAN!! I cant STAND anonymous chicken commenters GRRR Really if you are so ticked and dont like what you see.. like you said please dont come on here its rediculous! What a waiste of everyones time and energy.. if you dont like it dont read it! I shared with you when I had someone rip me for my photograghy, I was seriously hurt and even turned down a few sessions until I built back up my self confidence. Now Im so mad I let someone so hurtful and also anonymous get to me.
Im glad you have been able to see the light so quickly. I do love that computers are so handy and can now keep track of the little witch.. can I say that!!
I LOVE your blog Ive followed for a long time and am always excited to read.. peppy or non peppy posts. And of course we all love your photograghy! I am so grateful for my blog for those times I need to vent. Sometimes you just have to write it out and we all have that right.
Sorry that was a super long post! Glad your back but I understand the break! Ive been so impressed by all your photograghy posts you are awesome!!

Elizabeth said...

Kelly - I'm so bugged that someone felt the need to read your blog that they don't like and then be rude about you saying how you felt - anonymously. But, YOU GO GIRL on calling them out that they posted and then keep coming back to see what happens. Strange how some people think being untraceable gives them carte blanche to act as ugly as they want. Thing is, nothing is 100% anonymous.

Ignore them. Forget about. Move on with your own (very busy, and full) life. There are ulterior motives there and no point in wasting energy trying to figuring them out.

Sorry to hear about Lucy. We went thru that last summer with Taylor and it was SO difficult. She'd spend hours of the day crying or freaking out and I felt totally helpless because nothing we tried worked. BRUTAL. Last about 7 weeks and then she was fine. I didn't know if I'd live thru it with my sanity in tact. Not totally sure that I did actually...

If I can make it thru this week, we're free for the next several. If you get caught up too, ya'll should come down. Sometimes a change of scenery is good for everyone. The poppies are blooming...

Tara said...

Such sweet pictures of Lucy! My daughter is going through a similar phase right now where she is diffucult a lot of the time and sometimes you just need to vent. I can't believe someone would be so nasty as to attack you on your personal blog. That is just sad. I don't think your blog has been overly negative lately. It is real. Life isn't always perfect so how could anyone expect you always be positive. Good or bad I think you will love having this to look back on and remember those hard times. I love the saying: "Life is like photography...you develop from the negatives." It is so true. I think you handled the situation with great poise and I hope it doesn't keep you from blogging. Your blog is one of my absolute favorites.

Heather said...

Love your blog! Love your honesty! Don't stop! I sent you an email re. the photography session...hope you still have the date open! Looking forward to it! Now....what will we wear!LOL! Have a great week. Oh, and BOOOOOO to tacky people!

ypp said...

I'm just a lurker here, but you have no idea how sad I will feel if one day I don't see anymore your 2 girls' faces pictures.

I love them so much. And by extension, I love you too, and Leelee, even if I'm only a stranger.

So thank you and thank Leelee for everything.

Laura said...

I absolutely LOVE these photos of Lucy. She just gets more and more beautiful as she gets older.

I'm so sorry someone felt the need to leave nasty comments. I love how you analyzed the situation and "learned" from it. My mom always says that not everyone in life will like you, no matter how great you are, so only to focus on yourself and those who are close to you and tune out the rest. Sadly, for some people, the greater your life is (for you) and the happier you are, the nastier they an be. Further, she always says that if lots and lots of people say something negative about you, it's probably time to look at yourself. But when a few people have something bad to say about you, consider the source. And in this case, it sounds like the source(s) is (are)...well, anyway, I'll just agree with what you said about them b/c you have a cleaner mouth than I do!

Parenting is hard work. I don't really keep up with many blogs where it appears to be all roses and sunshine all the time b/c I don't buy it. I believe in honesty, and in life, there are great times, easy times, bad times, and difficult times. You're a great mom and you do an amazing job with your girls. Life isn't always easy, but it's how you come through the difficult times that matter. Please keep being honest and being yourself.

Hugs.

jnbjourney said...

Hang in there and don't let people bring you down. I praise you for taking a positive outlook on a nasty situation - something I'm sure that person was not expecting or hoping for! Hope things start getting better soon - I'm praying for ya'll!

Sandy said...

I'm a local lurker that loves to see your photos of your beautiful daughters. I'm sorry you have had to deal with drive-by wackos on your blog. Ignore them, delete them, and don't give them more thought (if possible!) as people like that don't deserve your energy. You are a fab photographer and a very good Mom. I'm in the long wait to adopt from China and as I peruse your picture, I daydream about having my daughter home and then also possibly contacting your for a photo shoot. Thank you for being a bright spot for me.

Mimi said...

LOVE love love the pictures of her wanting the dessert and then getting the dessert. Oh, how I so relate. That is why I love that sweet child.

Mandy

Mimi said...

And BOOOOO to the nasty stinkly hateful people!!!

Good for you for calling them out...

Vanessa said...

So sorry that you had to deal with those nasty comments. You are 100% right, this is your personal blog and where else should you be able to sit down and write about how you feel? No one is making anyone come read your blog. I feel exactly the same as you do.

I wish we had and American Girl place near us, it looks like such a fun place to take a little girl ;)

Ki said...

Kelly...
I am one of those random people that have found your blog along the way....and I just wanted you to know that I love LOVE LOVE your blog!!

I'm also sad that those people have made it harder for LeeLee to comment because I love seeing her "first"....

Allie Whalen said...

HI Kelly-
Somehow I found your blog and I enjoy reading it. I've never for a second thought you've been "negative." Life isn't perfect, and it's your personal blog. Say what you want! If I or whomever, doesn't like it, you're absolutely right, we don't have to read it. So please don't feel like you can't be 100% yourself...good or bad! Don't change a thing!

Allie

P.S. Your girls are adorable and I love your photography!

Melissa May Photography said...

Have absolutely missed your blog the past week. I have been following it daily for almost two years. I am a mother of a daughter adopted from Ukraine and to read your struggles with Lucy and Annie help other mothers not feel so alone. I think you do a great job. We all have those crappy moments and it should not be a problem to vent. It is your blog!!!! lol
I also do photography and love admiring your shoots. Great job!! Hope you continue to post!! God bless!!

ww said...

So sorry to hear that you got anonymous nasty comments. Thanks so much for not letting them get the best of you and for not making your blog private. Thank you for being honest in all your posts even when things are tough. It makes us all realize we're not the only ones with tough days! Love the photos of Lucy - especially the one where she saw the desserts! Hugs, Wendy

mimi lam said...

I do not know what kind of person,would leave nasty comment on someone else's blog, it it tresspassing,they must have a very miserable life. Lucy is getting lovelier as she is getting older, love her facial expression with her desert. We certainly love your blog,the pictures, and your family's sweet, funny comments.

trekmom said...

I too, read your blog every day, but rarely post. I am sorry you had to read those comments. I didn't think, at all, that you were being negative. Just being honest. Hang in there, I think you are doing GREAT! I loved today's pictures. I can't wait to take my little girl to American Girl, but the closest one is 6 hours away!

Stephanie said...

Good on you for sticking up for yourself! I don't think you need to feel bad at all about writing negative stuff -I'm sure a lot of people appreciate your honesty. I can't believe people would even read, let alone comment on a blog they apparently don't like- rude! I hope things improve soon!

Shirley H. said...

I dont understand why they keep reading your blog if they dont like it.. I seriously enjoy your blog!

Ignore those weird and nasty people!

momma23girls said...

Kelly, do not waste another minute on those rude comments and people! You are wonderful and even though I have never met you in my life, I can see this just through reading your posts. Parenting is hard work and it get's us all. Just know you are a great mother. You are! You can see it in your daughters faces. Big hugs!

Norah said...

Oh my goodness these pictures are BEYOND PRECIOUS! I love them! I have been wanting to take Linhsey to the one in NYC for some time now. Maybe for her birthday? Anyway, love your blog, everything you post about, and all of your pictures. I had to do the same thing with my comments when someone asked me if I loved L more than M. How sick is that? Okay, gotta go back and check out those ADORABLE pics of Lucy again. Oh my!

Kate said...

I'm so sorry that people feel entitled to trash your blog. At least if they had something mean that they HAD to say to you, they could've emailed you privately. Cowards. I've received snarky emails asking why I haven't given details on our recent adoption--that it's my responsibility to finish the story. Truth is, I'm not ready to talk and I may not, it's my damn blog! Hang in there, Kelly. You're such a great momma and I love that you're truthful when things are tough. I'll pray for Lucy and hope that it's just her age. We struggled horribly with our Luci from age 3.5 to 5. She was so insanely emotional and would go off the deep end over nothing. Stay strong, it's hard work, but you know as well as I do that the sweet moments they give you far outweigh the struggles. Much Love!
Kate

LawMommy said...

I haven't commented much (at all) lately...but I do read your blog every time you post. (And with things going on in my life, there are only about 15 blogs I still read all the time. Yours is one of them.)

I am sorry that someone said something so hurtful to you. I keep coming back to read you BECAUSE you are honest about some of the harder aspects of adoption. Your photos are stunning, of course, but if I didn't feel like you were being honest with things - I wouldn't read. I don't want to have sunshine and roses blown up my nose and feel like someone is putting icing on the truth...

This is your blog, your place to talk, to say whatever you need to say.

Nolite te Bastardes Carborundorum (Don't Let the Bastards Grind You Down)

Bethany said...

I LOVE your blog! I don't leave many comments but I visit often. I was in the process of adoption from Vietnam before they closed down. You were (and still are!) such an inspiration to me as we struggled through the process. God decided to bless us with a pregnancy and a beautiful baby boy instead of adoption but I still love getting a glimpse into your life =)

Keep up the good work! Your daughters are precious and your photography is absolutely beautiful! Good riddance to the mean people!

Amy Jo said...

I have been following your blog for quite some time, but I am not a regular commenter. But, I do feel like you need to know that there are so many of us who love you, love your blog, love your photography! Mean people suck! Keep being real because that is what draws most of us to you. Life is not always sunshine and roses and the fact that you are able to use this as a place to "vent" is wonderful. Keep your chin up and keep being yourself :)

Sara said...

I agree with the person who said "it takes a special person to turn something nasty into something positive." It is so true. Again, you show dignity and grace -- all that you DO represent on your blog. I agree with you wholeheartedly about this being YOUR space. I encourage you to be YOU and share as you see fit because not every day is sunshine and roses and everything is not always coming up rainbows. That is REAL life -- and REAL life is what I want to have documented when someday I spend my days reading the past. :)

I hope things get better with Lucy and know that so many of us can relate -- parenting is a HARD job! You are doing it beautifully. Have a great week! Sara-photogazelle

Kel said...

Hi,

We don't know each other.. I came across your blog one day and loved your girls.. I even read back to when you got Lucy!

Take no notice of such spiteful people. You are right... if you don't like it, don't read it!

As far as I can tell, your blog is thoughtful always and honest. Who wants to read about a make belief life?? Not me!

Keep up the good work and document your life as you see it!

xxxx

From another Kelly !

Natalie said...

So glad you got to spend that time with Lucy! Looks like you had loads of fun!!

So sorry to hear someone made you feel down. Glad you got something good out of the situation though.

Blessings,

itsagirlthing said...

Love you, Kelly! You are an awesome Mom, a fabulous photographer and a beautiful person.

I love those pictures of Lucy at AG!! It looks like a great Mother-Daughter outing and perfect timing for a special activity with Lucy.

thedelightfuldelaney said...

I've never, ever understood a) why people are so mean as to leave rude comments on someone's blog and b) why in the world they would keep reading a blog that they find so awful, annoying, whatever. Get a freaking life, anon losers!

I'm serious though - why would you take the time to do that? Glad you've been able to turn it around, though bummer it weighed on you so heavily. I'd be the same way though I doubt I'd be able to turn it around in such a meaningful way.

Hope the phase with Lucy is short-lived. I have heard so many times that the 3's are horrible compared to the 2's and it makes me shudder some days...

wendy said...

what is wrong with people, your blog makes people happy! I love the pics and the little bits about your family, I have a daughter from vietnam and it is fun to see the other girls like lucy grow up and all thierl little antics! People just need to shut up!

it's just me... said...

love ya. xoxo

Stepping On Legos said...

I'm so sorry about the hurtful comments. It is ridiculous that the world expects bloggers to only be positive and happy or funny. It is like you have become a character in some people's minds and if you are anything other than the type they have cast that character, you personally offend them! It's insane.

I lost a LOT of readers last year when i was going through all my stuff. I wasn't fun or interesting or funny anymore. I stopped posting becuase I was aware of that and that's just sad, right? I really regret it. We should be able to blog our good times and our bad times. Maybe, also, changing it up like that is like an exercise in weeding out the rifraf?! I'd rather only people read my blog who really care. I'm sure you feel the same.

Poor Lucy. Do you feel like it's more than just typical 3 year old stuff (which is harder than anything I've had to deal with as a Mom)? I hope you all work through it fast. It breaks my heart for you all!

Kristen said...

Kelly -

It seems so weird that I feel really annoyed and sad that someone said those things to you - you don't really know me... but I feel like you are my friend and I love your girls like they are my own nieces! It leaves me feeling protective when I know someone has hurt you.

I'm so sorry some crazy decided to spend their Friday night spreading ugliness. It makes me sad for them.

However, it will really make me sad if they affect your blogging at all. My favorite blogs are those that are REAL... not all rainbows and puppies. As a soon to be 1st time mommy, I look for others that will give it to me straight and not sugarcoat it (those type of blogs would make me feel like a failure as a mother, I'm sure).

And beyond that, your blog IS sunshine and happiness most days. The beautiful pictures and blogging always lift me up - even if it is about the harder parts of life. Please don't change - don't let some crazy change the way you blog.

Look at all the love you've received... for 1 crazy anonymous commenter there are 10 that love you! You must be doing something right! :)

Love you, love your girls, love your LeeLee...

I'll be praying for Miss Lucy... she'll snap out of it, as quickly as it came. ;)

mrsbroccoliguy said...

I gotta say, I'm completely baffled. If that last post was "whining" well then heck I'm the most negative blogger on earth!! Good grief, if you can't vent on your OWN blog, where can you?
I'm so glad you didn't let them get you down for long - you are such a good-hearted person and your blog is such a bright spot and whoever those commenters were, they clearly have their own issues that have absolutely nothing to do with you.
Thanks for sharing your personal family blog with all of us - it's a privilege to share in a little glimpse of your day.

The Landers Family said...

So sorry you have had to experience the venom of an anonymous commenter! I had one a little over a year ago and turns out, due to the magic of the internet, she is someone that I went to college with and my hubby and her brother are good friends! I am sure you know all about Amber Spencer's trouble - it was the same person! Crazy! Keep your chin up! You are a fabulous Momma and your girls are adorable! Love your blog and all your pics...sending some friends your way this June when you come to NWA!

Anne & James said...

Hi, I would say that the people that made nasty comments to you are just jelous. You have a happy and healthly family and they don't. I enjoy reading your blog, my husband and I are waiting for our court date for our little angel from russia and we love reading fellow bloggers. Don't that those jelous people get to ya

Cearley said...

Good for YOU and standing up for yourself on YOUR BLOG!! Hope things improve for you and little Lucy...
Cearley

Mer (Lulu's Mommy) said...

The pictures are adorable.

I am sorry you went through that. I have only been through it a little bit.

If we express ourselves, people will also express themselves back sometimes and not in a way we like. It doesn't make it ok for people to be mean, but again we can not control others, just the way we respond to them.

This would probably be a good time to tell you that you inspire me in so many ways, and one of the big ones is your kindness and your other and also your positive attitude.

So, thank you for blogging.

Larry and Kyndra said...

Hey Kelly-
Well said.. and you are so right. we do tend to snap at the ones we love so it is fantastic to learn something from someone so nasty and something so obviously not about you.
Hope Lucy gets through her rough time soon and you guys are doing ok. Take care.
kyn

Sugar Photography said...

Hey sweets,

I'm really sorry you're having to deal with anonymous grossness like that. My anonymous comment feature has been turned off and on throughout the years for various reasons (is currently enabled, fwiw).

I really love your train of thought where acknowledging these people is concerned. you are RIGHT ON. Who sits around on a Friday night (or any night?) and spreads bad feelings? Why do that? What is their motivation?

For what it's worth, I love your honesty and candidness. Parenting is NOT all sunshine and roses, and my favorite blogs are those that are real and honest, not sugar-coated (ha!) and, for lack of a better, fake.

Love you, girl. Keep it up. Keep that chin up high, love on those girls, keep doing your thing and finding your joy.

XO,

Jen

sreuter said...

Hi Kelly,

I am a friend of Jenna, Ella and soon Violet. I have been following your blog for quite sometime. Thank you for allowing me to follow your journey in life from the girls, your photography to everyday living. It is unfortunate you have to deal with negative comments, especially from people you don't know! There are many of us out here that support you, even if we don't know you.

Laurie said...

Kelly,

I don't know if I have ever commented before, this is probably long overdue. I read and love your blog, your honesty, your style, your love of life, family and your passions. Life isn't all golden sunshine and you are exactly right that it's sad people waste their time making nasty comments. Ignore them and move on with what you do, what makes you special and don't give them a 2nd thought!

Shawna said...

Hey Kel, I know what you mean. I started blogging as a personal venue for growth, and if I could help and/or entertain others along the way, the that's great too. But the sad thing with the "social media" (and I cringe upon that word because "media" has come to encompass so much more than real journalism), is that you share your voice and people mistake that false intimacy for actually knowing you, the real you. I think it is great that you pen your hardships and frustrations...it is a much healthier way to do it than taking it out on J, or the girls or your fam, and then feeling guilty and upset about it later on.

And I am amazed by how your following has grown over the years. There are times when I feel like no one is listening to me, and it's those times that I forget how public our private blogs are and I really let it all out there. I too have been going thru some stuff, and am more aware of how non-private our blogging can be, and thus have backed away from it a bit. But I'm working on things and trying to get back out there too, and know that no matter who sees this, it is me and I can only be affected by what I let affect me.

I am so proud of you and the woman you've grown into (as I always knew you would). You are an amazing wife and mother and I'm very happy to have had you as a friend for such a long time. Please try not to let those comments get to you, because as this comment section proves, for every 2 negatives, there are 50-some positives...supporters close to you and those that you never knew existed. And your work makes an impact on others. In my opinion, that's about the greatest gift you can share.

Love you!

Cori said...

What a special date for you and Lucy!! Such a cutie.

Deanna said...

Thank you for keeping your blog real!! We all have bad days and it is too easy to just put the "good days" on here!!! I love to read your blog and look at your pictures!!!! Thnanks again for keeping it real!!!!!!

Liz M said...

I am sorry you have to deal with the negativity of some people but I am glad you will continued for the one that are here for all the good reasons!
Very cute pictures!!

Jennifer said...

Hi Kelly,
I'm so sorry that some pathetic losers have to spend their time being mean. Honestly, I thought most people were over that kind of childishness by the end of 7th grade. Sad.

In any event, I have been following your blog since you brought Lucy home. In April 2008, I brought my daughter home from Tuyen Quang, VN. While I was waiting for her, I clung to your experiences with Lucy. It really made the waiting easier.

I think you are such a nice mom and such a kind, thoughtful, hard-working person. I really look forward to reading your blog everyday for that very reason. There are a lot of us out here who admire you and are grateful that you take the time to share your life with us.

Lucy looks like she had a great time at your special outing. The photo of her with her dessert is priceless.

I don't comment as often as I should, but I hope you know that there are a lot of us that do appreciate you! :)

Ronja said...

Hi Kelly, I just love reading your blog and used to comment anonymous, but just now signed up for an account so that I could still comment. You are totally right that one should feel sorry for those mean persons who have nothing better to do than to make other miserable. It is really great and helpful when you do write about problems and challenges, because that can help others cope with theirs.

You just seem to do a great job with your girls, and your business, and your marriage and family and church and ... everything! Don't let those awful comments bring you down.

Greetings from Germany, Ronja

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Suzi said...

oh shoot, kelly i am really sorry you had to deal with that nonsense. it is easy to sit here and say, don't let it bug you but i know that it does. it was one of the main reasons that i took our blog private. you are a really wonderful mom and it is so refreshing to hear the good, the bad and the ugly of it all! you are honest and open and if someone doesn't care for that, they don't need to be here. i am really impressed the way you took the negative and turned it into something positive for you. it's the last thing "anonymous" would want you to do and the very best thing you could!

MKH said...

what a wonderful day you had with Lucy! so happy she enjoyed it so much!
so sorry about the negative comments. I know that would be hurtful. sounds like you have a grip on all this though! hats off!

Mo said...

Hi Kelly,

How sad, I'm sorry that happened. I've had the same experience and ended up making our blog private. I hope all the positive comments here can outweigh the nasty two.

Maureen

the boyd girls.... said...

I love your blog, In fact, we saw you at the american girl store..(thurs) you were coming as we were leaving..but I was too shy and felt goofy to say, hey, I read your blog! My girls loved the store and cafe too! :)
jeffandkeriboyd.blogspot.com

Logan & Becky said...

That is ridiculous! Why in the world is someone wasting their time reading a blog they don't enjoy? I'm so sorry that some people think it's acceptable to be so rude and hurtful to people online because it's annonymous. I just want to say that I sincerely appreciate your blog. We stumbled upon it when we first started our homestudy years ago. It helped keep us going during the wait to bring our child home from Vietnam. We still check in regulartly to see what is going on with Lucy and Annie. We appreciate your honesty and the opportunity to see the similarities with parenting issues we are all facing.

HPTeach said...

I've been gone a few days from reading too so I've missed everything. But needless to say you are an amazing person from what I can tell and it's sad that you have had to go through the meanness of others.

Love the pictures again of the girls! Keep up doing a great job as a mommy and wife, we've all been there (and some of us are there right now too).

Welshie said...

It makes me so sick that there are people in this world who just get off on hurting others. Hope that you don't let it get to you. They are just saddo's !

jamielauren said...

Now I feel left out! I've only ever gotten one negative comment and it wasn't even anonymous! But I left it up because the truth is, people are not only mean, they're crazy and I like when my supporters see what the idiot had to say and then give him heck right back!!

In life, there are always going to be people who see you doing well and are happy for you and those who see you doing well and hate on you. We can't focus on those losers. They're not worth the time or energy and when they realize they've hurt you, they're happy. they're just nasty like that.

Feel free to send those anonymous haters to my blog. It will make me feel special. :O)

dana said...

Darling pictures of Lucy!!! Cannot wait to take Ruby to one of those shops. I'm so sorry that Lucy is going through a tough phase. I think three is a tough age and hopefully this phase will pass soon. Parenthood is especially trying when you question if you are making the right decisions and going about it the right way. Ugh. I feel for you!! All I can say is pray pray pray!! I love your positive spin on the nasty commenters. Some ppl really need to get a life!!

figuringitoutaswego said...

I too was wondering where you went. I am thrilled you are back and sincerely sorry for what you had to deal with. It's sad that there are so many people trolling the internet set on trying to make nice people feel bad.
So many people like your blog because it's real. You write about the good and the bad. That is life, it's not always roses...and I think that is why the majority of your readers can relate to you.
Love your blog.
Keep up the good work! :)
Ashlea
LUV the pic of Lucy checking out the dessert at the next table...and then getting her very own. So sweet!

Dawn said...

LOVE LOVE LOVE reading our blog!!! Miss those every day updates from last year, but happy to see that you have started such a successful business while still being able to take care of your beautiful family. You should be VERY proud of your accomplishments Kelly!!! Although we have never met, I feel like we would most definitely be friends if we knew each other. My Katie loves seeing pics of the girls, and calls them her Lucy and Annie friends whenever she sees me reading your blog...too cute! Love my girl, and your Lucy stories remind me SOOOO much of Katie. Please don't waste one more second of your time with the rude, bitter, and most likely jealous people that feel it is necessary to leave nasty comments. My mom would tell me to feel sorry for people like that, but to be perfectly honest, my time is too precious to waste even feeling sorry for them. Hope things get better for Miss Lucy soon. Not exactly sure what she is going through, but Katie went through a very rough clingy period last fall...we even had to drop out of pre-school...just too upsetting for her. Things will get better. Hang in there! BTW...That is the cutest darn ice cream treat EVER! Hope Lucy enjoyed her one on one time with her Mama. Okay...gotta run, my little cling on is Demanding that I pay attention to her RIGHT NOW!!!

Shay said...

Shawna couldn't have said what I was thinking more perfectly--and probably with a lot more eloquence than I could have done. You are an amazing person, and it truly broke my heart to hear that someone took the time to hurt your feelings. I want to give them a strong talkin' to...

Kel--your blog is amazing and I LOVE that you keep it so up to date, so I can follow your life and your precious little girls. This is YOUR blog--don't worry what others think about it. (it is clear that the majority loves to read your blog. Don't let those mean people get to you.

XaXa said...

I am used to read your blog since Lucy's adoption,
I read it every day, and I LOVE doing that! Your pictures are always so precious!

Kate said...

kel.so. a couple things here...
one to luce... i want a bite of those ice cream thingies.k?

two...dub tee eff??? why are people so crazy sometimes?
haha...i am kinda cracking up at the negative comment because i never even felt like you were being negative in the first place! i thought i had missed a post when i read that because i couldn't even think what you had said!

i mean, duh! some days are REALLY long. helllooooo!
if you pretend there aren't any hard days.... the REALLY smart people (that would be you and me but mostly me) know they are just pretending anyways.so i like reading about other peoples hard days too just to know that you're not alone sometimes
anywho...i'm sorry they tried to stink up ur blog.

and THIRD....i am heading straight over to MY blog to pose as an anon and write a nasty comment and see if i get 999999 comments telling me how much they love and adore me...did i mention admire? gotta go.

k...love ya...
more.

V-Dizzle said...

I've been following your blog for several months now and am usually envious that you have so much to say! Sometimes I sit down and just want to say stuff like "I'm bored." Haha.

Your girls are adorable, your photography is awesome, and you come across as a nice person. Forget the cheesy people who have to start stuff for the sake of the drama.

Jenni65 said...

Well, I just had to create a Google Account so that I can leave a comment every now and then. Sorry you had someone make you a comment that stopped you in your tracks. But, as usual, you turned it into a positive, learning experience. I just have to say that I love reading about your days with your girls. Your blog has always been a place for me to visit when I need a little sunshine on a day that is crazy busy with my 2 boys.

If you're ever in Ohio, I'd love for you to photograph my family!

Erin said...

Hey! All I can say, is that the people I choose to surround myself with are those who I can relate to....whether it's through the meltdowns of a pre-schooler, the joys of mommyhood, or the frustrations of trying to do and be "it all!" You make me feel like my life is normal, if there's such a thing!!

I love hearing about the day to day--good, bad, everything, which is why I enjoy reading!! Keep up the good work! You're a fab mom, daughter, friend.....oxox
Erin Wilson Baer

Heather said...

You're blog is REAL...that is the appeal (and the amazing photos!!). I have a daughter Lucy's age, and it is so nice to compare (for lack of a better word). Is Lucy getting sick...my daughter acts out of sorts when she is getting sick. Or maybe allergies?

The Hines Family said...

Grrrrr.......makes me sad that people would leave yucky comments! I agree--if you are having an off day, what better place to share than on your OWN blog. Besides, life is NOT all sunshines and rainbows. I know when I am blogging, I want to document my LIFE--the ups and downs.

I also want to say that God is working through you (and your blog)--reading your posts about your faith has been encouraging to me. :-)

Kelli said...

It seems like I've had to leave this comment on several blogs- mean people are stupid. I think everyone here has said what most- no all- of your AP bloggy friends feel about you and your wonderful blog! I've had my share of horrific comments too. They can just suck it!

Gayla said...

Part of what I love about your blog is the fact that it is so real. I wouldn't even want to read a blog that appeared to be all butterflies and rainbows.

Your blog is yours to write and share whatever you want. And I am glad you blog just as you do because yours is one of my favorites.

Your pictures are always amazing but these of Lucy are simply priceless.

Julie said...

No reason for people to be nasty. And of course they are cowards if they are posting anonymous.

Please don't give up blogging. I enjoy reading about your girls.

Kristi said...

I'm so sorry someone was unkind -- and I'd bet that it was the same person who left both comments to make it seem like someone agreed with their meanness.

I think it it would have to be a person who is envious of you and is terribly insecure who would say something like that. It amazes me what people will say under the shroud of "Anonymous." They'd never say something like that if you'd invited them into your home.

Don't let it get you down. It's you blog and you can say anything you want.

Brooke said...

Sorry to hear about those comments. The same thing happened to me last month, and I also had to turn off the anonymous commenting. I was rather upset that someone took the time to leave a nasty comment instead of walking away from my blog and never coming back.

On another note, I have yet to take my daughter to the AG cafe. Looks like it was a really fun date!

Mom said...

OK Kelly, I did lose my comment in having to go sign up so I can comment again. ugh.

When you told me about the comments, I did write and rewrite a speech in my head. But, all of your buds have said anything that I would have wanted to say, but better. I do believe that in the end, good always triumphs--and look at all the well-wishers that back me up!

Lucy is obviously just missing her Lee.

Annie probably is, too.

I have planted some of my flowers. Had Papa go with me to get a few more today. One of his favorite things to do on "errand day". Not! Hope it's warmer tomorrow to get them planted! Felt like fall, today--but is to warm up tomorrow. The pollen is about to make me crazy!

This family is blessed, blessed, blessed. My love to you all. Hugs and kisses, LeeLee

PS--my dear anonymous'--DON'T MESS WITH MY CHICKS. Sincerely, Mother Hen

ekrisdinger said...

Kelly,
Thats same thing happened recently to another blogger that I read and I just don't understand how someone can be so miserable that they have to rag on your blog and your feelings. Its like, settle down and STOP READING.

Glad you're back!

Christina said...

i am so sorry you have had to deal with this. your blog is incredible and you are such a talented writer. you are the reason i started a blog! thank you for being real on here too. you and justin are such loving parents. i am thinking about yall, esp. sweet lucy. that face when her dessert arrived is priceless!

Staci said...

So sorry you have had to deal with a nasty person. Just don't understand why people do stuff like that!! This is clearly a personal blog for YOUR friends and family. Thanks for letting us fellow bloggers follow along with your beautiful family and your real life.

LOVE the pictures of Lucy at AG. Such a magical place to take our daughters.

Wishing you the best :)

Robyn said...

Just wanted to let you know that I LOVE your blog. We have a son born in Korea and a daughter born in Taiwan. Your sweet Annie shares her birthdate with my daughter so I feel like we have an extra bond :)
Keep up with writing whatever you like - there are so many people who love your entries.

Carla said...

Ugh! Who would do such a thing? I, too, lurk your blog every now and again. I am fascinated with your courage as a new mother.

Keep writing and talking about whatever you choose. I appreciate the authenticity of your blog!

Lane Olson said...

i love your blog...even when it's not roses and rainbows. hang in there and know that lucy will get through whatever she's going through soon...

daily mom said...

hi kelly...i haven't been able to visit for awhile. but, i was in SHOCK when i read your post. you are such an amazing woman with a beautiful family...and a wonderful mother. i love reading your blog. i love it that you are honest and real with us. life is not perfect, nor is parenting. so, when you write about the stress and hard times...we can totally relate to you. you keep writing and taking pictures of your beautiful girls! love the pics of lucy at american girl. have a good day! lots of love!

Sarah said...

Sorry :(...I am glad you were able to turn the situation around and make it a learning experience. I really hope the mean people got the message and move on...maybe they can find an "I love being a mean person" blog!

Kate said...

wow. 99 comments already. I didn't read them so I'm sure what I'll say will only be duplicative, but I can't believe anyone would bother with such nastiness. I completely agree with you that family blogs that only talk about sunshine and roses are no fun. Complaints are good because they are REAL LIFE. If your blog was only happiness, all the time, then readers would be turned off b/c we'd feel like we don't measure up, or like you're leading a charmed life or something. I don't know why the haters can't get that. Blogs are best when they share the bad and the good. Keep up the good work!

Bonny said...

Your readers love your family and your blog, and don't worry about what some 12-year-old someplace comments. God bless you all.

Carmen said...

Kelly I love your blog and love the pictures you take. I love all the adorable clothes Lucy & Annie wear. Everybody has bad days, I would never think about saying anything about the things you choose to blog about. It's your blog, I write what I want on mine
I'm doing the project 365, because I enjoyed yours so much. I haven't missed a day. Just love those babies they will be fine. All children go through good and bad stages. Your good parents, anybody can see that...

Destination Motherhood said...

Kelly,
We adopted at the same time, and remember the early days of the yahoo forums and waiting out the early paperwork headaches, etc. I don't post here much because well, too busy. But I'm amazed what a great photographer you are, and am so happy you have turned that into a business for yourself. Way to go girl!

I don't see your posts as negative or whinny at all. Life has ups and downs, and throw parenting in there and you have extra ups and downs. That's life, I think the posters has other issues and would have said that stuff regardless of anything you posted.

Kristi said...

I enjoy reading your blog and love hearing about your kids, husband and other family members. I love seeing the pictures and watching the girls grow and mature. It's your blog and you have the right to do and say on your blog. Keep up the good work and please keep writing.

Amy said...

Kelly, I've been reading your blog since it was featured on Sugar photography's blog. I'm sorry that a few idiots have made you feel this way. This happened to me about 2 years ago, someone posted on our blog that I'd stole their research pictures and other nonsense. You among others inspired me and my husband to start up our own photo biz. Don't give this idiots the pleasure of letting them get to you.

Stacie said...

way to go girl! don;t let the "hate lifers" bring you down! You are just not on that level they are trying to bring you down to!

Sarah said...

Grrr. Mean people suck. I'm sorry someone decided to make themselves feel better by putting you down. Parenting isn't rainbows and sunshine. I totally get feeling like you don't have anything blow-worthy or any energy to write about it even if you did have something to share. This is your space where you share your heart and your talents. We're just blessed that you share your lives with us.

LauraPBS said...

Good job, Kelly - Way to be strong and turn a negative into a positive - I too have had a rough time lately and probably taken it out too much on my loved ones and your post reminded me to keep myself in check - I too don't get why someone would bother with reading a blog if they don't enjoy it - really weird.
Good luck with Lucy - the tough stages with my kids have always made me so much more grateful for the nice stages -
BTW - I never said thank you way back when for your post about Lightroom - it changed my life - and now I am "pro" and way too busy too! Thanks so much for your inspiration!
Laura
www.2brothers1sister2dogs.wordpress.com

Emily said...

Your blog should be just that...YOUR blog! Keep saying what you want to say. I honestly can't believe what some people have the nerve to say sometimes! I love it and I love it because it's real..the good, bad and the ugly!
Lucy looks like she's in heaven at American Girl!

margaret said...

Hang in there! I love reading your blog and find your honesty inspirational.

Mom2J&I said...

mean people suck!!
(i have loved following your blog over the years and what i love most is that you don't pretend that life is all sunshine and rainbows. b/c i know.....it's not! keep it up, there are a lot of us that luv ya girl!

503 Photography said...

Honestly, I know it hurt you, but it makes me more sad for them. People aren't mean to others unless they have a sad life themselves. At least you have an amazing life with an amazing family and amazing friends (mainly me).

Melissa said...

Kelly,
I am so sorry people have said such hurtful things. It just makes me so angry when other people disrupt others peaceful blogging experience. I'm not a mother yet, but I am a nanny. And honestly, you cannot be expected to have a good day, every day. I just hate other people have to ruin this. I am glad you are going to continue blogging, because I just love your blog. Don't let others get you down, share your thoughts and if they don't like it, then oh well!
I hope things start picking up for you and Miss Lucy!

Jennifer Gartman said...

Jealousy is such an evil thing!! Don't let it get you down b/c people are jealous of what a great and REAL person you are. Keep on doing exactly what you are doing. There is nothing wrong with it. So many people look up to you on here (I know I do) and seeing that you are such an awesome person and mother and showing everyone that you are REAL and face REAL situations and REAL feelings in life is probably partly why people keep coming back. Not that they enjoy the fact that you are stressed at times, but b/c they can RELATE and know that its normal to be stressed and go thru tough times. Don't let it get you down.

Jennifer Gartman said...

Jealousy is such an evil thing!! Don't let it get you down b/c people are jealous of what a great and REAL person you are. Keep on doing exactly what you are doing. There is nothing wrong with it. So many people look up to you on here (I know I do) and seeing that you are such an awesome person and mother and showing everyone that you are REAL and face REAL situations and REAL feelings in life is probably partly why people keep coming back. Not that they enjoy the fact that you are stressed at times, but b/c they can RELATE and know that its normal to be stressed and go thru tough times. Don't let it get you down.

Misc Momma said...

I just don't get people's internet mentality they get. To be so nasty in ways that they very likely would not be in person.

If you never complained, I'm sure you'd get (anonymous) people implying you're fake. You just can't please everyone.

~Tara

Heather said...

Love love love the American girl store and their tea! Just had to say I think it is totally creepy when weird anonymous commenters make disparaging remarks on someones blog. Who does that? Why would they care enough to post something like that? Love your blog. Keep it real just like you do!

Patty said...

Normally I just read. Like many, I read your blog feeling connected over adoption, but never rise to comment. Until now. Hearing how mistreated you were just made my heart sink. Your honesty and candor has been a blessing to me. And then, there are the pictoral lessons! I think I am getting better at my point and shoot! :) lol.
I am so terribly sorry that you were treated so rudely! Unfortunately you can't fix stupid (people that is.) There are many of us who enjoy walking with you on your journey. Thank you for sharing.

Laurie and Travis said...

Hey Kell, I just wanted to stop in and remind you I'm here too. If you ever want to chat, there's always screaming in the background, but I'm here for ya. You've got lots of friends in bloggyland, and like Jena said, even if we're not present in each other's lives on a daily basis, we form our own support network because of the experiences and parenting challenges we share. Sometimes it's just comforting to know everyone is still out there, cheering you on. I certainly am.

Carolyn Tarpey said...

Hi Kelly,

I am so sorry you had to deal with nasty comments! I find nothing ruder. I just do not understand how someone has nothing better to do with there time but to leave mean comments on someone's personal blog. You have every right to write about anything you want, good or bad it is YOUR blog. I love when I read about your "real" life and you say it like it is. Parenting is one of the toughest jobs ever and it is not always a bed of roses.

Kelly, thank you so much for continuing to blog, I love following along. Your daughters are so adorable and your pictures are to die for!!

Best,
Carolyn (Henry's mom)

Sassy Sarah said...

So sorry that you have people commenting such mean and hurtful things.

I love your blog and your girls are beautiful and sound amazing.

I was adopted and love seeing their pictures and watching them grow. I'm hoping that in a few years, my fiance and I will be able to adopt, too.

Angie said...

I've been reading for a while and have never commented before, but I have to tell you how much I enjoy your blog! We have a son adopted from Vietnam that is Annie's age so I love reading about both of your girls and seeing your beautiful pictures. Sorry you've had to deal with the rude comments! Your attitude, faith, and blog are all inspiring--it's one of my favorites to read!

M3 said...

Oh no! So sorry you had to deal with that anonymous spew. You always write with grace and honesty, and I hope you never change a thing.

Laura said...

My sister-in-law reads your blog. She is unable to post a comment herself but asked me to pass this along.
"I think you are an amazing mom and I love your blog."

Kelly and Brent said...

Very sad that people feel they can leave mean comments on someone's blog. It is your blog and you can write what ever you want. You are a fabulous mom, photographer and I love reading about your life with your girls. Life is not all peachy and I love that you are real about everything!

If it makes you feel better I am going through the same thing with my oldest, who is only days older than Lucy! This is a hard time for all -- know that you aren't alone.

Keep up the amazing things that you do. You are amazing!

Laura said...

Hello, I came across your blog while "blog-hopping" adoption blogs. First let me say your girls are beautiful, secondly I appreciate the people who don't make it sound like their kids poop rainbows. I have been able to learn alot about what parenting adopted an adopted child from being able to view real-life experiences! Thankyou

1beautifulmess said...

Hey Kelly-
Wow, I am about a month late with the encouragement, but just read this and wanted to chime in. Some people are such idiots and I am so sorry that those idiots felt the need to attack you. I cannot begin to tell you how much I admire your honesty and openness. It makes all of us feel more normal. Your pictures and especially your words inspire all of us...so keep on keeping on! We love it!
If you get a chance, read this blog posting from Proverbs 31 ministry, it blessed my day Saturday, and I am sure it would bless yours too. http://proverbs31devotions.blogspot.com/2010/05/dailyness.html
Take care! Leanne :)